Anupama should have a spine! Vanraj sucks - Page 2

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupama have shown spine that is why she has decide to leave house after giving ownership of house to vanraj

But anupama leaving house will shown at friday because in yesterday episode when precap was shown it was wriitten is hafte ( this Week)and is hafte ka matlab yeh that anupama leaving house will be shown at end of Week

Not really, because at that time when Vanraj's affair with Kavya was exposed, Vanraj left the house by his will and today Vanraj told Anupama to leave his house, so Anupama is just being manipulated and shown mahan. If she truly had a spine, she would stand by Samar and tell Vanraj to get the f*** out of her house.

No anupama did not leave house because vanraj told her . She leave house on her own

Anupama first took bag and vanraj said to anupama if u want to portray me bad by going out then why are u standing here get out

And anupama has never greed of house . She always tell by vanraj and bapuji that she Dont want to become owner of house

So anupama handlling house over to vanraj is done according to her personality cvs ne shuru se anupama ko aise portray kiya hai that it is nothing unexpected that she give house to vanraj

And by giving house back to vanraj she is not showing mahanta rather she is showing dignity and self respect

This show 😖

Anu is a huge disappointment

Did she forget all the blood sweat and tears upon tears she put into the house? Does anyone realize that her work may have no monetary value because you can’t place a price on taking care of your family’s non monetary needs?

Wth were the CV thinking? That we are sheeples? Van goes and rants and we see everyone crying in the show so as an audience member we will feel sorry for him? Yeah nope

The writers have ruined Anu these past few weeks.

I’m hoping we see a Anu is back scene also cause I’m about to skip on this show if things don’t change

Anupamaa makes it pretty clear that she’s not always thinking from the point of view of being a wife. She also thinks from the point of view of being a daughter-in-law, mother, sister-in-law, sister, mother-in-law, daughter and sometimes a human being. She aims a lot to be in a state where her personal experience, hurt and upsetting moments don’t affect how she behave with other people. For you to call her idiotic just because she hasn’t lost her temper and hasn’t her life into a pursuit to make Vanraj’s life hell really does say a lot about how people perceive kindness. As something that is not right. Kindness should not have a limit.

I will never digest the fact how literally so many people here are irked by Anupamaa’s kindness. Yes, showing Anupamaa as Mahan maybe bothersome at times. But what exactly is the problem of portraying someone as so kind and good? Why does it bug you? Does such a person not exist at all in our society or anywhere in the world? If you say, actually they do not. Nobody is that nice, then does that mean that we cannot aim to be such good people? It is wrong for a group of creatives to aim to create a kind of a Being that could perhaps transcend beyond its worldly experience and think objectively about their situation.

You have to understand, thought existence is personal. Phenomenology does say that it is possible to look things differently to how we feel. Iris Murdoch wrote a great a book on ‘The Sovereignty of the Good’.

It is not at all necessary to have an argument against everything. Literally nobody here can deny that Anupamaa does speak, but she makes an assessment and judgement as to when she should do so.

So, literally, she’s now back to being idiot again because Vanraj taunted and she kept quiet. Wow.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

No anupama did not leave house because vanraj told her . She leave house on her own

Anupama first took bag and vanraj said to anupama if u want to portray me bad by going out then why are u standing here get out

And anupama has never greed of house . She always tell by vanraj and bapuji that she Dont want to become owner of house

So anupama handlling house over to vanraj is done according to her personality cvs ne shuru se anupama ko aise portray kiya hai that it is nothing unexpected that she give house to vanraj

And by giving house back to vanraj she is not showing mahanta rather she is showing dignity and self respect

This!!!!

Exactly, she’s showing and actually, literally, staying true to herself on words that she has previously said. The CV’s have not changed her at all. Plus, everyone wants her to leave and start anew anyway. So why it is such a big issue if she doesn’t start this new beginning after giving Vanraj a piece of her mind. What would that really change? Will it make a massive difference? I think it will not achieve much, why waste your breath right?

Honestly, I will never actually digest that people here are complaining that Anupamaa has an undeniable and undying patience. They moan about Anupamaa’s mahantaa just like Vanraj does 😂. Anupamaa’s kindness bothers them just like it bother’s Vanraj.

It is not like Anupamaa does not appreciate when she needs to speak, when she has to decide to move forward, when to act in a particular way and so on.

If the kind of kindness Anupamaa does not exist at all, then philosophers who have spent considerable amount of time talking about ‘altruism’ have wasted their time writing about it.

I will say one thing however, before commenting on something as problematic. We must begin questioning why does this matter trouble me? Why can I not digest it?

Originally posted by: ThePhilosopher

Anupamaa makes it pretty clear that she’s not always thinking from the point of view of being a wife. She also thinks from the point of view of being a daughter-in-law, mother, sister-in-law, sister, mother-in-law, daughter and sometimes a human being. She aims a lot to be in a state where her personal experience, hurt and upsetting moments don’t affect how she behave with other people. For you to call her idiotic just because she hasn’t lost her temper and hasn’t her life into a pursuit to make Vanraj’s life hell really does say a lot about how people perceive kindness. As something that is not right. Kindness should not have a limit.

I will never digest the fact how literally so many people here are irked by Anupamaa’s kindness. Yes, showing Anupamaa as Mahan maybe bothersome at times. But what exactly is the problem of portraying someone as so kind and good? Why does it bug you? Does such a person not exist at all in our society or anywhere in the world? If you say, actually they do not. Nobody is that nice, then does that mean that we cannot aim to be such good people? It is wrong for a group of creatives to aim to create a kind of a Being that could perhaps transcend beyond its worldly experience and think objectively about their situation.

You have to understand, thought existence is personal. Phenomenology does say that it is possible to look things differently to how we feel. Iris Murdoch wrote a great a book on ‘The Sovereignty of the Good’.

It is not at all necessary to have an argument against everything. Literally nobody here can deny that Anupamaa does speak, but she makes an assessment and judgement as to when she should do so.

So, literally, she’s now back to being idiot again because Vanraj taunted and she kept quiet. Wow.

As far as I can see, people aren't calling Anupama idiotic because she isn't losing her temper or shouting. We all know it is possible to stand up for yourself and those who you care about without being loud/aggressive...

But the issue is that Anu isn't standing up for herself, those who care about her or what is right AT ALL these days, let alone doing it in this method or that method.

And yes, many of us do have a problem with this particular brand of "kindness" that Anu has been showing lately. We aren't irked because people with similar attitudes don't exist anywhere in the world. We are seriously pissed off because people, (especially women) like that DO exist in the real world, and their definition of kindness mostly benefits the WORST people in their lives more than it does anyone else.

The concept of limitless kindness towards everyone is ideal on paper but dangerous and scary if applied by all decent people in real life. The only way such a thing would work is if EVERY SINGLE person in the world practiced it. And unfortunately, we all know such a day will never come.

Urging all decent people with a conscience to just forgive everyone and be kind all the time would just result in bad people of all types running wild with no fear of prevention or punishment.

These situations are just hypothetical. Even in reality often these people who consider themselves limitlessly kind/mahaan soon become nothing but enablers... they are the ones who forgive and cover up all the bad deeds of others, claiming "God will punish them" or something equally ridiculous. And what happens after that? The wrong-doers they were ignoring only go and inflict even worse harm on someone else. These mahaans can't seem to understand that God didn't give us all free will and the ability to help our selves and others just to sit and let things happen...

And often, (like what is starting to happen in Anu's case) these people's energies become exclusively focused on forgiving/protecting/defending the worst people in their lives and in the world... their kindness isn't really limitless... it always seems to stop right before it reaches those who truly need it , and would genuinely appreciate and reciprocate it. Why did the limit of Anu's kindness and forgiveness end when Samar finally stood up to Vanraj? Why was it wearing thin when Kinjal spoke up in Samar's support?

In reality, this particular brand of kindness that some people promote (particularly to women) just helps and supports those who wish to do wrong and inflict harm on others.

100 percent agree with philosopher anupama kindness isliye dikha rahi kyonki yahi iska true nature hai

Anupama ko kabhi me my self and revengeful nahin dikhaya gaya hai to apne true nature ke according anupama apne enemy ka bura chahe yeh ho nahin sakta ya phir help na kare it is not posible

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

As far as I can see, people aren't calling Anupama idiotic because she isn't losing her temper or shouting. We all know it is possible to stand up for yourself and those who you care about without being loud/aggressive...

But the issue is that Anu isn't standing up for herself, those who care about her or what is right AT ALL these days, let alone doing it in this method or that method.

And yes, many of us do have a problem with this particular brand of "kindness" that Anu has been showing lately. We aren't irked because people with similar attitudes don't exist anywhere in the world. We are seriously pissed off because people, (especially women) like that DO exist in the real world, and their definition of kindness mostly benefits the WORST people in their lives more than it does anyone else.

The concept of limitless kindness towards everyone is ideal on paper but dangerous and scary if applied by all decent people in real life. The only way such a thing would work is if EVERY SINGLE person in the world practiced it. And unfortunately, we all know such a day will never come.

Urging all decent people with a conscience to just forgive everyone and be kind all the time would just result in bad people of all types running wild with no fear of prevention or punishment.

These situations are just hypothetical. Even in reality often these people who consider themselves limitlessly kind/mahaan soon become nothing but enablers... they are the ones who forgive and cover up all the bad deeds of others, claiming "God will punish them" or something equally ridiculous. And what happens after that? The wrong-doers they were ignoring only go and inflict even worse harm on someone else. These mahaans can't seem to understand that God didn't give us all free will and the ability to help our selves and others just to sit and let things happen...

And often, (like what is starting to happen in Anu's case) these people's energies become exclusively focused on forgiving/protecting/defending the worst people in their lives and in the world... their kindness isn't really limitless... it always seems to stop right before it reaches those who truly need it , and would genuinely appreciate and reciprocate it. Why did the limit of Anu's kindness and forgiveness end when Samar finally stood up to Vanraj? Why was it wearing thin when Kinjal spoke up in Samar's support?

In reality, this particular brand of kindness that some people promote (particularly to women) just helps and supports those who wish to do wrong and inflict harm on others.

But her limitless kindness did not end, her shouting at Samar or stopping Kinjal did not mean at all that she is suddenly angry with them. She’s going to still love them. Anupamaa will not suddenly change her entire personality because she told them to stop. I

As for this kind of characters being problematic ultimately, to you, then deal with it. It is YOUR problem that you cannot digest such a character. Why should someone change or be in a particular way to impress you. You’re literally saying that Anupamaa should aim for authenticity and yet you’re criticising her for being the way she is actually?

You are saying that she should not be the way she is for this family etc, but you are saying that she should be in a particular way that is acceptable to you.

You are saying no one is calling her an idiot. But it is obvious that a group of you here is calling her it.

As for making things happen, change doesn’t happen over night. Free will is not necessarily capable of making things happen immediately. Patience is a virtue. Also, if you say there’s issues with this level of patience, well then once again. It is YOUR problem that you can’t digest it. Deal with it.

Anupama has zero self worth. Woman who respects her own worth will never allow anyone to treat her poorly.

If you have no self worth then ideology of your self respect is also bigggg Zer0000000.

She had disrespected her own worth for 25 long years by allowing family members to treat her poorly.

She had disrespected her own worth when she decided to do little seva of injured vanraj because of whatever reason.

She had disrespected her self worth when she arranged the birthday party for vanraj due to whatever reason. Not eating cake has nothing to do with it.

She had disrespected her self worth when she was stopping others who were saying vanraj is wrong.

She had disrespected her self worth when she was loudly announcing that this is ONLY vanraj shah ‘s house

I strongly believe in the words that women doesn’t know her worth has nothing to do with the word SELF RESPECT.